This website is meant to make you stop and think: If he went through all that and lived to tell about it, maybe I can too. Though I was born with natural talents, so-called good looks, and an uncommon appreciation for the finer things in life (which would prove especially useful during my adulthood spent interacting with the rich, the powerful and the celebrated while working in the world of high-end jewelry), I was also born with a rare birth defect, I’ve weathered five heart surgeries, I’ve been involved in three car accidents, I have PTSD and … I am bipolar.
I’ve also survived the depravity of racial discrimination, sexual-orientation discrimination, sexual harassment, bullying, physical and sexual violence (more than ten physical and sexual assaults perpetrated by both men and women), and mental illness discrimination. Some of these acts I’ve endured at the hands of strangers - others, at the hands of those who were supposed to protect me. People of faith, and members of my family.
My mission is to help inspire and encourage everyone to never consider throwing in the towel, in particular, those in desperate search of answers to questions I most likely asked myself throughout life; the most obvious being “Why are these things happening?” No matter what you've been through, or what you might be going through now, please know that it’s never too late for redemption. The human spirit wasn't intended to be abused, bent, or broken, but it has an incredible ability to overcome. All things are possible. This website is my gift to you. May you discover something (or several things) within its pages that move and inspire you enough to share the very description of your inspiration or epiphany with anyone you feel may benefit from it.
The memoir "Redemption in Richmond: We shall not fight our battles alone" is the remarkable, true story of Todd Carl, a warrior in the truest sense of the word.
Todd has successfully cheated death on numerous occasions, all while simultaneously navigating the dark, turbulent waters of bipolar disorder, mental illness discrimination, life-threatening heart issues, senseless hate crimes, physical violence, PTSD and much more. Beginning with the unfolding drama during Todd's fathers’ internment ceremony in Arlington National Cemetery, the story immediately flashes back to the very beginning of Todd's life. His story has all the makings of a big screen drama. In Todd’s early twenties, he leaves his provincial mid-western town of West Bend, Wisconsin to venture off to school in Los Angeles where he experiences true independence for the first time in his life. This is also the period of time that would signal the beginning of a lifetime of numerous health issues (some potentially fatal) which nobody - not even Todd himself - could have ever predicted.
Redemption in Richmond is an overwhelmingly complex, sophisticated, lurid, tragic but ultimately inspirational story that follows Todd's nomadic existence from coast to coast while shining a spotlight on current, newsworthy issues such as suicide awareness and prevention, sexual orientation discrimination and harassment in the workplace today that is almost never discussed but is very real.
Despite Todd's many social, medical and psychological challenges, he manages to find true love but not before experiencing the sadness of its polar opposite… unrequited love. Todd also meets, conducts business with and befriends the rich, the famous and the infamous. From innumerable, past experiences, he also identifies with the poor, the downcast, the forgotten and the disabled. And as an openly proud, gay man, he is equally proud of his relationship with God and vehemently opposes hypocrisy within the ranks of the Christian faith when addressing the never-ending controversy of whether or not gay individuals can still be Christians.
Todd's humility is openly displayed when discussing the several lives he has saved and the 4 years he served as a caregiver to his elderly parents, both of whom suffered from dementia… all while recovering from his 5th heart operation. Todd proudly demonstrates the many ways in which a person with mental illness is fully capable of living a normal, exciting existence while simultaneously fulfilling many childhood dreams and fantasies along the way. This memoir is chock full of joy, sadness, humor, tragedy, heroism and humility, not to mention all the many interesting anecdotes dispersed throughout the entire book. Todd’s story finally concludes with an unexpected, emotional and inspiring ending, one that is sure to ignite the flames of self-evaluation among readers everywhere and prompt them to consider reading the entire book or at minimum, certain chapters, in order to fully capture this book’s true message: Redemption is not a gift, it’s fulfillment!
Another of Todd's creative interests was photography (and still is to this day). Nevertheless, the one talent he continued to remain silent about was his creative writing abilities, which would later prove to be quite valuable during his attendance at DePaul School for New Learning. One notable essay paper he wrote found him researching and ultimately producing a unique narrative (for it’s time) that would garner him a well-deserved “A” which he admits, is still one of his finest short, written works. The topic? The impact computers would have on the future of professional tennis, in particular, lines judging. Little did he realize his writing prowess, OCD and unusual attention to the smallest of details at that time would ultimately lead him on a nearly 30-year odyssey through the diamond and high-end jewelry industries and by a sheer twist of irony, bring him right back to where it all began… his love of creative writing.
As Todd continued to work and build a solid reputation for himself within the jewelry industry in cities from coast to coast, his expert, personalized customer service and bespoke, high-end jewelry designs for his wealthy and well-known clientele easily allowed him to find unique employment opportunities at famous establishments along the way…places like the world renowned Laykin et Cie Precious Jewels at I. Magnin. During its heyday, the famous I. Magnin department store chain was without equal and considered one of the most luxurious, high-end, specialty stores in the entire United States during the mid to latter part of the 20th century. Though both firms are now defunct, the ingenious pairing of Laykin et Cie and I. Magnin could only be found at three locations throughout Chicago, one location in Phoenix and several locations throughout the state of California. On reflection, both stores will forever be remembered as the favorite gathering place for many of the world’s richest and most famous individuals, among them, the Saudi Royal Family.
Having started with the Michigan Avenue location of Laykin et Cie initially, and in a surprise move by founder Sol Laykin himself, Todd was presented (in late Spring of 1990) with “the promotional opportunity of a lifetime.” At the age of 28, Todd accepted the offer from Mr. Laykin, moved to Phoenix, Arizona and assumed the role of Director of the Biltmore Fashion Square location of Laykin et Cie. But in 1991, knowing Mr. Laykin’s health was in decline, Todd found himself being scouted one day by the vice president of Neiman Marcus Precious Jewels (the new Neiman Marcus of Scottsdale was in its final stages of construction). Todd would eventually accept Neiman’s offer and join the staff in the Fall of 1991 while the finishing touches of that store were taking place all around him and the rest of the entire store staff. Coupled with his nearly 4-year tenure at Laykin et Cie, his honesty, integrity, friendly persona and effortless social skills allowed him to easily carve out a distinctive niche for himself within the industry he candidly refers to as “the greatest love affair of my life.”
These days, when Todd is not at his laptop writing, he can be found gardening – another passion – in the peaceful forest and meandering creek grounds of the residence he shares with two members of his “family of choice”, John and Sarah, as well as their two dogs Conner and Camille.
Please feel free to contact Todd in the space below and be sure to include all information such as name, email, and telephone (if applicable) and the nature of your correspondence. Also, be sure to let Mr. Carl know if your correspondence is time sensitive and if so, give additional information to that extent.